Q&A On Consensual Non-Consent

The following are the questions addressed:

Lots of people believe CNC should have a safeword. That makes me wonder what differentiates it from a regular play session. Also, if and when you indulge in CNC with someone other than Mancilla (my dominant partner), do you have a safeword? 

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Can CNC be safely explored in casual dynamics or is it better suited for long-term dynamics? 

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Is it CNC if my partner wants me to beat them with a live chicken but I don't have consent from the chicken? 

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What do you think of Rhythm 0 and the CNC aspects of it? Do you think it was a cultural milestone? (Favourite question, thank you, something I have wanted to write about for a decade)

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How to negotiate a safeword or a continue word, when the point of playing is to push against those limits and find catharsis in the difficulty. For both people. If the bottom is crying and non-verbal and appears to need to stop, but they don't actually want to. 

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What's a good way to tell your partner you want to do a CNC scene and that certain boundaries (like no face slapping) can be crossed and that you want them crossed? 

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What are some challenges Mancilla has had as the dominant in your dynamic? What were some of the frustrations or tough growth points for you stepping fully into CNC? 

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I know trauma victims can get a lot out of reenacting their abuse, but what does the "abuser" get out of it? 

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Do you ever step out of CNC to have check-ins about dynamic needs? What does it look like in your relationship when needs are not being met? 

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Do you think setting medical guidelines outside of life-threatening situations can still be permitted under the umbrella of CNC? Like no ATM or ATV because of the risk of infection? 

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Do you know any resources for couples counsellors who are CNC/tpe knowledgeable? Do they exist?

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During a CNC scene have you ever not safeworded out when something happened that you never wanted to happen? Why did you not safeword? 

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How do you handle (or hide) the side effects of edge play like marks, bruises, broken lips, swollen face etc? 

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Does the desire for CNC have anything to do with childhood trauma?

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How to tell men I enjoy CNC and want my limits pushed without being judged? 

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Is it CNC if my partner makes me terrible food and makes me eat it knowing full well that the food is terrible?

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Is free use CNC?

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Do you ever get into a non-verbal state during cnc and if you do, how do you communicate that? 

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