My polyamory story

I'll be getting a microphone soon so it will be easier to hear me for videos like this.

I was recently talking with an able bodied guy who was interested in me. He had a misconception of what polyamory means and claimed he could never be Sharing a woman that he saw as his territory. Surprised me because he did not come across originally as a chauvinist. I guess he even thought it was sexy at one point to say he would have to come inside me in order to belong to him. Since I was engaging in dirty talk as well I kind of brushed off the offense I felt but now when I think about it that is a pretty insensitive thing to say to a person with a disability who could literally pass away or be in medical danger should they get pregnant. What I love about the people I have met who are polyamorous is that belonging is inherently a part of the community Element of truly healthy non-monogamy. Belonging to one person alone gives the person with the power of your surrender a false sense of egoism and exclusivity, while you as the one surrendering can carry the pressure of their idealized one true love image of you.

The media so often portrayed any kind of polyamory in either unhealthy forms where someone is feeling guilty and is usually a man and is usually sleeping with several women without letting anybody know about anybody else because everybody is just acting like robots and fucking with no affection(Shame starring Michael Fassbender is one example) it's no wonder that people who rely on the media to portray Real life scenarios are all confused about what healthy non-monogamy looks like. My main problem with this guy who I initially was attracted to but ended up blocking, and the inspiration for this post, was that he was very judgmental towards voyeurism which companies certain polyamorous situations such as threesomes, foursomes, etc. I challenged him to think about what is happening when he is watching porn. Mental polyamory is doing gymnastics as we watch p**n… imagine if those people were in the room with you. You can deny it, but as one of my friends says there's a little bit of non-monogamy in all of us… whether it's that one time we cheated on a monogamous commitment or the constant longing for newness and adventures that causes us to break up with one partner and start over with a new one.

Interestingly enough, the Christian missionary Elisabeth Elliot was the one who got me thinking about polyamory as a young adults… she had about three husbands I think over the course of her life and each one died for one reason or another. As I had been raised to believe in heaven and hell, I imagined her in heaven one day with all of her husband raised from the dead. I couldn't imagine god being mad that they were all there together. And because sex I think it is one of the most divine things we could possibly do, I suppose they all had a grand old time together forever and ever in paradise.

If you don't think this way, I understand. But I think it's a very empowering way especially for women to live. For so long, history normalized concubines and polygamy, only now in this day and age are women having multiple partners both male and female and receiving the pleasure we deserve. While distributing the emotional and mental burdens of relationships to avoid burnout and the pressure of a one true love.

Doesn't that make sense?and