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Madonna's Wh*res: Reclaiming Life Post Purity Culture

https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/W_uDFLqSS3a_fz250svSdg

Tonight at 6pm EDT. Details here: https://fetlife.com/events/1879889

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Risk Aware 2.0 for (Especially Higher Risk) Kink: The Essential Frameworks

Risk Aware 2.0 for (Especially Higher Risk) Kink: The Essential Frameworks

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How (and Why) to be a Monster F*cker

How (and Why) to be a Monster F*cker

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BDSM Bio Basics: Risk Aware Hygiene

BDSM Bio Basics: Risk Aware Hygiene

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Inclusive Anatomy for Vulva Sharps

Inclusive Anatomy for Vulva Sharps

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Inclusive Penile Anatomy for CBT

Inclusive Penile Anatomy for CBT

Anatomy class

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The Neurobiology of Consent in Sex and Kink

The Neurobiology of Consent in Sex and Kink

Slides: https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1H1SB1w5jIw5KN54JN5iV3pZ7epRld82WGFK0UBsU4Og/edit?usp=sharing

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Sex Positivity in BDSM

Sex Positivity in BDSM

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Scarification with Scalpels

Scarification with Scalpels

This link is valid 30 days from the posting.

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Month 2 Draft

Month 2: Self-Consent and Embodied Awareness

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Bloodboarding Class

Bloodboarding Class

This class is for advanced sharps players and waterboarders. See Liquid Will for foundational information.

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Month 1 of Draft

Day 5: Legal vs Ethical Consent ✴️

This exercise has a 🧩 Consent Foundations track addition.

Assignment:

Write two definitions of consent:

  • What would make consent legally valid in your jurisdiction?

  • What would make consent ethically rich in your scenes and relationships?

Journal Prompt:

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Liquid Will

Liquid Will

Recording of Liquid Will.

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Day 4: Agency Is Not Just Saying Yes

Reflection Prompt:

  • When was the last time you chose something because it felt aligned—not because it was expected or the easiest path? 

  • What did it feel like to make that choice?

Affirmation:

  • “I have a circle of self. I do not owe access to this space to anyone—not even when it’s expected....

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Day 2: Consent Is More Than a Yes

Assignment:

  • Make a list of five reasons someone might say yes to something (sexual, kinky, an unwanted work assignment, or something else) that isn't truly consensual (e.g., saying yes to avoid conflict, because they’re scared, because they’re supposed to want it, etc.). For each one, list what would have to change for that yes to become a real yes.

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Day 1: What Does Consent Mean to You?

Month 1: Understanding Consent in a World That Undermines It—Foundations of Consent

Week 1: Defining Consent Beyond Compliance

Weekly Focus: Breaking down what consent is—and isn’t—through daily exercises that reveal early socialization, media messages, and internalized scripts.

Adjacent Topics: Agency, capacity, coercion, compliance, ...

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Book Announcement: 365 Days of Consent Culture Exercises for Kinksters

By Ember Solaris

I'm excited to announce my upcoming book, "365 Days of Consent Culture Exercises for Kinksters". Parts and sneak peeks of the book will start being posted here for subscribers.

A Yearlong Journey to Embodied, Ethical, and Everyday Consent—in and out of the scene

What if consent wasn't just something you negotiated before a scene—but someth...

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Complimentary Ticket to Risk Aware 2.0

Complimentary Ticket to Risk Aware 2.0

The link above will get you a free ticket to attend should you like to use it. The event is pay what you can otherwise.

RSVP here: https://fetlife.com/events/1720926

Join me for a dynamic virtual workshop designed to give kinksters the tools and perspectives needed to navigate play in the modern environment....

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My Discord and Monster Fucking Chat

Okay, I've opened a Monster Fucking chat in my own Discord since I'm not sure whether or not Kinky Kollege's is just for event attendees. https://discord.gg/xVsssv3v2x

CW for blood and sharps

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Self Harm/NSSI and Improving Your Relationship to Pain in Kink

 Self Harm/NSSI and Improving Your Relationship to Pain in Kink

Slides link: https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1YCgxOxOFtFgzO_Jw1K4-Wr5ll6iH07EvIjAbKr8hJFw/edit?usp=drive_link

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Beyond Fear: Stalking Awareness and Safety Measures

Beyond Fear: Stalking Awareness and Safety Measures

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Monster Fuckers Recording

Hi Delightfuls!

Here's the recording and other info from Monster Fuckers. Since it is so sexually explicit, I have not posted it on Youtube, because Youtube will strike me. Instead I'm sharing it directly from my Zoom recordings. You will need the passcode listed below to access it.

Recording: 2024-11-04 22:03:27 +0000 UTC View Post

Deciding Whether to Break Up

Deciding Whether to Break Up

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Understanding Relationships and Breakups

Understanding Relationships and Breakups

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Emotional First Aid for Kinksters

Emotional First Aid for Kinksters

Slides: https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1ckqSfYTKOy5g8WAR7BE9HrElPTeLGsFt_GH2HzQm9lY/edit?usp=sharing 

Links: 2024-10-18 01:04:10 +0000 UTC View Post

Verbal Self Defense

Verbal Self Defense

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Science of Sleep for Kinksters

Science of Sleep for Kinksters

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Avoiding the Creep Factor

Avoiding the Creep Factor

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Intro to Neurodiversity

Intro to Neurodiversity

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For Neurotypical Partners

For Neurotypical Partners

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