Hey all! Right now I'm reading Complaint! by Sara Ahmed, a book that explores the way power responds to and suppresses complaint. There is a central focus on trying to complain within the University or other formal institutions, but on my reading there is much here that can be applied to the way complaint is treated in smaller, more informal social spaces as well. In particular the chapter "In ...
2024-05-15 18:11:52 +0000 UTC View PostI have been in nonstop pain for the last five years of my life. While pain and frequent illness have been features of my lived experience for as long as I can remember, chronic pain introduced itself first through a TMJ disorder and over the years since has made itself at home in most parts of my body. I have spent these years repeatedly throwing my body into the machine of the medical industri...
2024-04-29 15:15:25 +0000 UTC View Post
Thank you for hanging in there and supporting me anyway! I have about 5 essays that are halfway or more than halfway done, and several ones I have a little start on, and several older drafts that are probably just never going to see the light of day. I am doing my best to get something out this week but if I'm being realistic it will likely take until Monday.
I have had a string of pain ...
2024-04-25 17:20:33 +0000 UTC View PostJust finally read this amazing essay by Sara Ahmed (it’s been in my to-read pile for much too long) and y’all can read it here: https://feministkilljoys.com/2022/06/08/the-complainer-as-carceral-feminist/?amp
In this essay Ahmed explores the dynamic in which those w...
2024-04-17 15:34:29 +0000 UTC View Post
Abuse is ubiquitous in our society, and as a result there are very few among us, if any, who have not been abused themselves or in proximity to someone else being abused. Myths about why and how abuse occurs run rampant and the ones that dominate are ones that ultimately serve in the maintenance of the...
2024-04-01 19:32:30 +0000 UTC View PostHey folks, not posting anything particularly interesting to share with y’all today, but thought I might offer up a mini update on me. As y’all have seen over the last couple of weeks I am working on a couple of different essays rn. They’re coming together but wow is it a lot slower going than my writing process was last year.
I got COVID a month and a half ago now (only a few weeks ...
2024-03-27 21:22:05 +0000 UTC View Post
Hey y'all! Hope you are doing well today. Just working on my Love Lies Bleeding essay and I am referencing this text in it (attached below). If you haven't read it before I cannot recommend it strong enough, it is such an amazing analysis of heterosexuality as a regime. Had the pdf and thought I'd share it he...
Hey there patrons! I’ve taken a break from the essay I’ve been sharing the research materials for in the last couple weeks (don’t worry i’m coming back to it) to write a fun little essay about lesbian desire in Love Lies Bleeding. I’m going to see it for the second time today to take some nerd notes in the back of the theater. While I’m waiting I’ve been studying some lesbian femi...
2024-03-25 18:17:01 +0000 UTC View Post
If you didn’t click in and watch any of the other videos from the series I shared last week, wow please watch this one. Wherever there is domination there is resistance.
2024-03-19 16:31:22 +0000 UTC View PostHey y'all, hope you are getting a good start to your week! Attached below is a pdf of an essay called Small Acts of Living: Everyday Resistance to Violence and Other Forms of Oppression by Allan Wade. I pulled it out of my to-read folder this morning because it looked like it would align with the essay I'm working on, and sure enough the author actually references Domination and the Arts of Res...
2024-03-18 17:31:34 +0000 UTC View Post
If you were interested in the videos on Response Based Practice I shared yesterday, here's a great anarchist text to pair with them! I'm working on an essay more or less combining the ideas of response based practice in DV theory and the ideas of public and hidden transcripts in this book. Read it a while ago and brushing up on my notes today! This is more or less how I do a lot of my DV theori...
2024-03-13 17:41:05 +0000 UTC View PostIt's less than 3 minute's long, an excerpt: "Men know that women resist being abused, men know that women don't like to be abused, only psychologists think that women fail to resist abuse."
2024-03-12 15:11:37 +0000 UTC View PostHey everyone,
I have mostly recovered from top surgery, as well as the chronic illness flare up that followed it, and the covid infection (my first known positive) that followed that. To say the least it's been a rough start to the year, and I know that is not only true for me! Seems like most of the friends and comrades I know have been a bit clobbered by bad twists of fate as well as ju...
2024-03-12 14:24:38 +0000 UTC View Post
A frequent critique of kink, especially hard kink that utilizes physical force (ex: slapping, whipping, etc.), is that it is indistinguishable from abuse, or is itself abuse. Without a thorough understanding of the dynamics of abuse, this perspective can be difficult to impossible to adequately refute. In this essay it is my aim to offer my own understanding of domestic violence as a DV researc...
2024-01-02 22:50:36 +0000 UTC View Post
Hey there everyone, finally finished my first set of audioessays! Check out me reading each essay in my zine Destroy What Destroys You V1 here!
2023-12-15 17:58:54 +0000 UTC View PostHi y'all,
I just wanted to make an end of the year post to update y'all on me, my work, and the current direction of my projects.
You may have noticed that my writing has been less frequent since I dropped my first zine in September. My apologies for this! I have been under a great deal of stress having been physically assaulted and injured in late September and also hustling ...
2023-12-05 16:43:10 +0000 UTC View PostHello lovely patrons! It's been a while since I've posted an essay, because I have been working on a zine project that includes three new essay! It's called A Woman Can Be Any Gender He Wants To Be and all the essays included explore patriarchy, masculinity, and gender liberation. I've posted it here for folks to purchase if you'd like to share it around, but y'all will get it for free! Thank y...
2023-09-04 21:35:11 +0000 UTC View PostDARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender) is a common tactic deployed by abusers to co-opt one of the few (potential) sources of power available to the survivor — disclosure — and turn it towards their own project of coercive control. The abuser denies allegations of abuse (if any have yet been made, sometimes abusers preempt their victim), attacks the credibility of the sur...
2023-06-26 18:27:21 +0000 UTC View PostSo common is the conceptualization of reactionaries as having “anti-sex” politics that it is hardly remarked upon. They hate sex workers, they hate it when women and other marginalized genders have a lot of sex, queer sex, or extramarital sex, they want to keep children from any form of sexual education, etc. What do these all have in common? Sex! So it really must be that the right-wing is...
2023-05-09 20:07:10 +0000 UTC View Post
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Hey all! If you haven't caught it on twitter I just finished a live reading of the zine Betrayal. And I'm making the full text of my summary available publicly here. Tbh, I have no idea how I managed to do this for the entirety of the COIN manual a couple of years ago. Perhaps it was easier because the COIN manual was so dry, whereas with this text, that I adore, it feels wrong to leave anythin...
2023-02-22 19:53:04 +0000 UTC View PostCW: This essay includes discussion of child sexual abuse and rape.
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</figure>I grew up in a right-wing household in a rural, predominantly right-wing, community. I was groomed and eventually sexually assaulted by my right-wing Christian father who was highly regarded by everyone in the comm...
2023-02-08 18:14:14 +0000 UTC View PostFor far too long have radical communities and their discourses treated domestic violence and abuse as external from the considerations of revolutionary struggle. Abuse is seen as simply an interpersonal issue, springing from individual pathology which we must address by correcting certain behaviors and teaching better communication skills. The intervention tools of choice are frequently limited...
2023-01-05 20:29:28 +0000 UTC View PostYou may have noticed in the last couple of months my essay writing and publishing has lessened. This is because I have been in my very last term of school (my fourth and final attempt at an undergraduate degree) and my classes have taken most of my researching and writing capacity. However, after this week, I will finally be finished! So you can expect to see more long form writing relatively s...
2022-11-28 22:59:37 +0000 UTC View PostWhen faced with the stories of physical and sexual violence, manipulation, gaslighting, and coercion that survivors tell from their experiences within abusive relationships, many people’s first question frequently seems to be “why didn’t they just leave?” And, indeed, with a limited understanding of the overall context that forms abuse, victims remaining with their abusers seems unimagi...
2022-10-03 22:38:59 +0000 UTC View PostOften when survivors of abuse speak out against our abuser’s behavior and control, we are approached by seemingly well-meaning people who exort us to “remember” our abuser’s humanity in the process, even going so far as to tell us to not use the term “abuser” at all, but person-first language like “person who abuses” just to make crystal clear to all who hear us that we put our ...
2022-08-19 20:01:21 +0000 UTC View PostWhen exploring the potential challenges of a liberatory future, one of the most frequent subjects we reflect upon is that of how our labor might be organized to attend to the needs of all without domination and hierarchy. There is no shortage of theory proposing various answers to these questions, and it is not my intention, in this essay, to do the same. Rather, I intend to explore the root be...
2022-07-21 16:46:27 +0000 UTC View PostMany people new to anarchist ideas might find much that they resonate with in the political philosophy, but feel that they have some reservations that keep them from being able to identify fully with anarchism. Anarchism as many come to know it is, in many ways, a profoundly optimistic philosophy when it comes to the human condition. Much of our analysis (or at least the analysis that tends to ...
2022-06-28 15:41:13 +0000 UTC View PostHey there everyone, I just want to start by saying how deeply I appreciate y'all's support. It means so much to me and has seriously helped me survive when disability has made other forms of work impossible. Thank you.
Next, an update: I am working on shifting my focus to creating more long-form work that, I hope, will have a bit more staying power than Twitter threads (which I will also ...
2022-06-28 15:09:34 +0000 UTC View PostHey there!
It has come to my attention that, while I've updated the individual membership categories I have (up until today) neglected to update the About section of my Patreon, which was quite outdated. So I want to let y'all know here what you can expect from this page.
For total transparency, I am not very active on this Patreon and have no intention to be, as I do not want...
2021-07-29 01:45:50 +0000 UTC View Post